This year has been a wonderful year. I’ve checked off a few things on my Living To Do List (as I call it) and I do notice every now and then, it gets to my head that I’m living some of my dreams in a beautiful country, with a super amazing circle. It is ok that it does, I’ve worked my ass off but the moment I notice I do not treat people the same way I did from jump, if I notice I don’t make time for people that matter, if I notice that I’m getting too big for my breeches, I have to look at the people that inspire me and guide me and mentor me. I haven’t even scratched the surface of where I want to be nor where these people are so it is stupid to let shit get to my head. I must always, always stay humble and check my ego. Like @official_brand_nubian said: “Don’t Let It Go To Your Head” #MyBlackOutPoems @centreforarttapes
November 26, 2018: Friends Might Push The Envelope, Making You Feel Alone.
It’s great to have friends and no, I’m not talking about people that follow you on Instagram or Facebook. I mean people that will show up for you when you need someone to have your back… real friends. Here’s thing thing though: you should never forget that your friends, no matter how amazing they are, are human beings and human beings a fallible. So when you friend disappoints you, do not lose your shit. Remind yourself that they are human and you are too. It’s ok if they fuck up… IT ISN’T OK IF IT IS A CONSTANT THING, THOUGH! #MyBlackOutPoems @centreforarttapes
November 22, 2018: Broke 37-Year-Olds Are In Vancouver.
This one cracked me up. I was @banffcentre and met a few people from Vancouver. They love their city but they kept going on about how expensive living there is. Oh well. #MyBlackOutPoems @centreforarttapes
If you want your relationship to work, it helps to be with someone you are physically attracted to; call me shallow if you want but if you can’t look at the person you are with and feel good inside you are on the highway to Splitsville. Attraction counts. Love sure but communication and understanding are the major components that will keep you guys happy year after year after year. If you can’t talk about things but not just talk about things, actually take the time to understand what the other person is saying? No matter how attracted you guys are to each other… shit is going to end… badly. So talk and take time to actually understand what the other person is saying. That’s advice to myself. #MyBlackOutPoems @centreforarttapes
If we can think in terms of the future, we will make better decisions. I understand living for the now but if you realised that something tiny you did daily would make your life a lot better in five years time, would you do it or only focus on that thing that makes you happy right now? Exactly! #MyBlackOutPoems @centreforarttapes
November 19, 2018: It Was Pretty Easy Then All Of A Sudden Hell.
This one actually has a story I’ll share at one of the talks I plan for my residency. It wasn’t supposed to be this set of words but this is what I ended up with. I’m sure you’ve had to deal with a situation where everything appears easy and all seems to be like paint by numbers only for one slip to happen and it becomes a tedious venture. Oh you haven’t? Lucky you. Anyway, I’ll talk about this one a lot for sure. #MyBlackOutPoems @centreforarttapes
The gym is a funny place. If you ever want to people watch, spend a few minutes there and you’ll see the weirdest things happen…. especially on Mondays. Just make sure you do get some workout in. #MyBlackOutPoems @centreforarttapes